5 Reasons To Help Teens Cope With Strict Parents

stpa43by Jerome Baker

One thing most teens will have to deal with as long as they live under their parent’s roof are household rules. My parents use to say, “My roof, my rules!” Every time I heard that, I wanted slap somebody! As a young person living with strict parents can become burdensome at times. Truthfully, it can downright get on your nerves. But, as I matured I learned that having strict parents was a blessing. Yes I said it. It can be difficult for a child or even a grown child that still lives at home to understand this, but it can be true if a parent is strict for the right reasons. In an effort to help teens and parents to come together, here are a few reasons why some parents are so strict.

1. Some parents are strict because they love you.

Tough love is still love. (And not the type of toughness that is abusive). My mom use to say, if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t be so tough on you. Little did I know she was right.  Hang in there!

Proverbs 3:12 For whom the LORD loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights.

2. Some parents are strict because they don’t want to be your friend, yet.

In my opinion, it can be difficult to be a friend to a child. A parent that is too close to their teen will get taken advantage of sooner or later. Secondly, a parent that is too friendly more than likely doesn’t discipline their child. As a teen matures into adulthood a friendship may occur, but a parent should be a parent. Don’t hate your parents for having rules and boundaries, a parent should teach discipline. Learn to follow rules from parents, or the police!

Proverbs 29:15 The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

3. Some parents are strict because they see what you don’t see.

Most parents have been there and done that. Most teens think, parents just don’t understand. Actually, many do. Parents are strict so hopefully you don’t make the same bad choices they did. You don’t have to experience everything, take your parents advice.

4. Sometimes strict parents really do understand.

“Take it from me, parents just don’t understand”, is a verse Will Smith said in a hit song in the 1990’s, Parents Just Don’t Understand. Well, I found out some parents do understand. Especially some Christian parents. One reason they are tough on their teen is because they don’t want to see their child in danger or have their home out of the will of God.

Proverbs 3:33 The curse of the LORD is on the house of the wicked, But He blesses the home of the just.

5. Some strict parents had strict parents of their own….so get in line.

Some parents are simply raising their teen the way they were raised. Not that this is right or wrong, it just depends on what is been done. It’s funny, some ways my parents raised me I find myself doing the same thing towards my boys….and they say they will not do their kids the way I’m training them….which is the same thing I said to my parents.  However, later on in my 20’s I truely appreciated how I was raised.

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© Copyright 2014 Jerome A. Baker All rights reserved. Jerome Baker is the youth pastor at his local church in Carrollton Georgia, A Place of Refuge. Jerome has served in youth ministry for over 17 years, married with two boys, and the author of  two books, “Success Killers” and “Watch Who Hang With”. Like his FaceBook page at http://www.facebook.com/jabmin

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