Controlling Your Temper

01cytBy Jerome Baker

Have you ever been so upset that you were ready to slap someone, go off, or break something?  Anger has a way of getting the best of some people, I’m pretty sure we have all been there.  But truthfully, some people get so ticked off that they harm others with their words and actions and don’t even think twice about it.  We use to say, “Don’t try me, cause I will snap before quick get ready!”  A person with a bad temper can be dangerous to deal with.  Furthermore, an anger person tends to act foolishly and misses the blessing God has for them because they go off too quickly.  But the good news is you can control your temper.  It will take some work, but here are some ways to successfully check that attitude.

1. Don’t let people push your buttons.
Some people love to start mess, you must know this in life. When you are tempted to, “take it to the street”, just hold up for a moment.  Somethings are even worth letting consume you and messing up your day.  Learn to keep calm and hold your peace.  Don’t let people control you so much they that they can get you all turnout up.  When they say things like, “Did you hear what she said about you?” or “I’m not trying to start anything, BUT I what you to know…” be ready to keep it together because they are trying to push your buttons!
Proverbs 15:8 A wrathful man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention.

2. Think about the trouble you may get into.
Sometimes after we have given someone a piece of our mind we then realize how much damage we have caused.  Learn to be discreet before you speak.  It will save you embarrassment and possibly keep you from loosing a friend, getting on punishment, or suffering lost.
Proverbs 19:11 The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger,…

3. Get mad, just don’t sin.
Being angry in and of itself is not wrong.  Even God gets angry (1 Kings 11:9).  The key is not to sin.  Sin is doing what you know is wrong (James 4:17).  Flicking a bird at someone, cussing someone out, hitting a woman, keying someone’s car, disrespecting a parent, or “showing your end” in public cause somebody stole your man just ain’t right.  There are better ways to express your anger, but you have to start by learning not to cross certain lines.  Thinking about it, a bad temper can get you beat up or locked up by the police, or even killed now-a-days.
Psalms 4:4 Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah

4. Watch your words.
If you are like me, there are somethings people can say that make you feel some kind of way.  “Boy”, “Nigg**”, “You ain’t nothing”, are a few examples.  I constantly have to avoid acting a fool just because someone else is.  When walking away doesn’t bring comfort and you have to say something, say the right thing.  A quick prayer like, “Lord, please help me before I do something crazy”, always helps me.  But remember, sometimes how you respond to people affects you and them.  You can keep your temper at bay when you watch the words you say.
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

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