Helping Hard Headed Teens


By: Jerome Baker

Some teens go through stages of being difficult to deal with. Even though the Bible commands young people to obey their parents in the Lord, teens sometimes stray from the path of obedience and wander into a place of disrespect, rejection, and misbehavior. Thankfully the Scripture gives comfort and instructions for the parent that wants to help their child to get back on the straight and narrow and experience God’s blessings for their teen. Here are some ways to help with a hard headed kid.

1. Reevaluate how you discipline
God designed discipline as a tool to display love and to to teach discretion. Sometimes parents don’t discipline properly. Because God created your child He is the one that knows how you should discipline in order to get good results. As a child grows so does their maturity, perception of life, and values. A parent must seek God and be directed on how to effectively discipline their teen properly.

2. Don’t back down
Would you believe that some parents are scared of their of kids? A hardheaded kid must learn to follow rules and see the blessing of boundaries. Once a parent sets a rule, don’t back down!  Don’t allow tears to move you. Don’t allow the “You are so mean” comments to discourage you. Stand your ground and permit them to learn that even they will reap what they sow. Don’t back down.

3. Be patient
Allow God to convict and change your teen. Some parents make their teen do everything. A teen must learn to choose life or death for themselves and live with the consequences or rewards thereafter. Be patient. Endure the sad and pitiful looks from your teen. Endure the feelings of guilt that arise when you lay down the law. Just be patience and watch God do a work in your child.
Ecclesiastes‬ ‭7‬:‭8‬ The end of a thing is better than its beginning; The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

4. Communicate
Don’t leave your teen without the understanding of why you do what you do. Constantly explain why you punish, withhold things, and reward them. God’s Word should be the foundation of raising your child. Let them know what God’s Word says as it relates to their behavior in your house.
Proverbs‬ ‭29‬:‭15‬ The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Hard headed teens will eventually do one of two things:  remain the same and suffer or learn and change for the better. If you parent according to Scripture it will be the latter of the two.
Isaiah 55:11 So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.

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© Copyright 2015 Jerome Baker Jerome Baker is the author of “Success Killers” and “Watch Who Hang With”, and the youth pastor at his church in Carrollton, Georgia.

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